You are more than your emotions | Culture & Leisure


It is very important that we feel all of our feelings. They are a kind of messenger to help us along our life path. We also get to observe our thinking, mental mind, heart mind and gut mind. These processes require us to be able to distance ourselves from the feelings and thoughts themselves. It seems difficult at first, but with a little practice it becomes smoother and more efficient.

The benefit of such exercises may at first seem like a waste of time, or even an impossibility. It’s logic. We have probably spent most of our lives believing that we are our thoughts and feelings. It’s a superficial view of who we really are. The simplest example would be to consider our hand objectively for a moment. What is its shape and size? What does it do? Does it feel strong, weak, painful or neutral? Has my hand changed over time? Will this change more as we grow in life? Once these points have been addressed and noted, we can ask, “Are we just our hand?

Of course, in reality, we are much more than just our hand. Thoughts and feelings are like that. They (our hand, our feelings and our thoughts) are all part of us, but not the whole, and perhaps not so important as parts. They are one thing today, different tomorrow, and very different perhaps from one, five, ten or more years ago. Could we live without our hand? Or our feelings today? Or our thoughts right now? What position have we witnessed our hand in? Can we go there and watch our thoughts and feelings? It is a healthy practice. Change is happening, guaranteed, and we can go with the flow. It’s good news. It’s much nicer than complaining or not accepting reality. More good news is that we have a gift in life called “choice,” which we can apply to our investigations, to perhaps guide the changes that are happening anyway.

Today’s book How to Change by Katy Milkman was recently written in 2021. Penguin Publishing distributes it. It can be found in paper form or in audio edition. This book takes a well-researched scientific approach to behavior change (and thinking and feelings can be considered behaviors, we “do” them), helping people find techniques to guide changes in their lives for more happiness, abundance and needs. the reasons. The mind and the feelings that accompany it, including gut feelings, are very powerful tools for humans. If we feel stuck in life, it’s just a thought/feeling, and it’s not true. Life still flows. We need to get in tune and at the pace of this flow. This book could start that process.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Life is not a theory. To live is to alternate energy between rest and action. We are still living, although sometimes we feel like we don’t have control over our lives. They are not the same things. Sometimes the best way to live is to let go of control. Where we let that check go is perhaps fodder for another article. For our purposes today, let’s just note that letting go of control, consciously, is an action, a choice. We decide to do it, then we see what happens. It’s not about steering a car and letting go of the wheel. Rational thinking is needed. It’s really more a matter of trust.

Trust is a very delicate commodity. Delicate is not weak. Delicate notes that using or not using trust as a tool and part of life choices will have a subtle and sometimes significant effect on life. Trust is a union of integrity and intelligence. We must, as we described above for the hand, the feelings and the thoughts, be able to step back and consciously understand what we are doing with confidence. If we fuss freely, it might be troublesome, but if we hold back trust for our own selfish preservation or out of fear, it can be even more troublesome. There must be a conscious balance. The integrity element of trust allows us to recognize our trustworthiness and gives us the ability to know that while trust is very important, it is not the only tool in the toolbox. The intelligence element of trust allows us to expand or restrict trust accordingly. As with everything, levels of trust will change with circumstances on a human level. The small note on the testimony of thoughts and feelings and the hand must be a zone of total confidence. If we can’t trust ourselves, how will we ever trust anyone or anything?

Our book today, How to Change by Katy Milkman, may have some ideas about confidence, feelings, thoughts, and actions we can take to make more positive changes in our lives. Certainly worth considering and a bit of effort for all of us.

Enjoy and read on!


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